Greetings from the New Forest!
We have been lucky to be part of a lot of fabulous weddings over the last few years, and in August we hosted 4 fabulous weddings and in September we have 4 more we thought it only appropriate to make our blog wedding related this month.
As Oscar Wilde once said – to be spontaneous takes precise planning, the same can be said for the perfect wedding.
The following is our 5 top tips for a fabulous and relaxed day.
1)Planning- it is true that the most relaxed and smooth wedding days are those which have been planned and organised- even those that seem casually put together & spontaneous!! With several different suppliers, venues, all with different payment dates, and not to mention the church or registrar, which has it’s own set of rules and dates for you too. It is really difficult to keep the process stress free without a list or spreadsheet to assist. This is a boring job to create but you will be forever grateful and also it will assist with keeping track of your budget. The knowledge that you are on track and tick things off your list will give a great sense of statisfaction and accomplishment.
Sitting down with your fiancé and working out the budget is also a fundamental part of the planning process. As is ensuring you had enough time to choose and buy your dress, suits, and other suppliers. Listen to the venues requirements and so you can provide them with the table plan, rooms lists and menus on track will also stop a last minute panic and will ensure that you can have a stress free run up to your wedding, which will mean that you will enjoy your day all the more.
Taking time out throughout the run up to your wedding to keep on track with your plan, will also help you keep control of your wedding and achieve the day you and your finance would like and not fall fowl to ‘helpful’ friends & family that give you lots of ‘their’ ideas!!
Top tip definitely lists,lists and more lists!!!!
2) Questions… Never feel bad about asking questions. This is likely the first time that you have ever planned such a big event with so many components. The more that you know about the venue, flowers, cake, dress and photographer the more relaxed you and your fiancé will be. A good way to ask questions is to have a list (got to love a list!) prepared so you do not forget anything and are able to record the answers. Some example questions are;
- What are the terms of the venue licence?
- Exactly what’s in our package?
- What’s the cancellation policy?
- Do you have recommended or mandatory suppliers?
- What flowers are in season?
- What notice do you need?
- Does the venue have a cake stand and knife?
- do you need to set up beforehand?
- What do you need in terms of power supply and sockets?
Lots of these questions can be answered by your wedding co ordinator and always ask them what they think works best in the venue too.
3) Who’s on the guest list…. A tough one to get down to but the sooner you know who is coming the sooner you can focus on finding the perfect venue. This is undoubtedly the biggest expense in the wedding process and so imperative to get it right. It is important to be selective, and not be guilt tripped into inviting people who you do not really want to come to your day. The cost implications on additional guests can quickly mount up.
4) Personalise…. Sometimes easier said than done!! But it is great when the bride and groom put their stamp on the day and really make the guests feel wonderful. It may be a bespoke menu or giving a gift box in the rooms when guests check in, or giving guests your favourite flavour in favours- we had some beautiful ly wrapped vanilla sticks given during the summer, and it perfectly represented the bride and groom. Take time to think about what makes you unique.
5) Enjoy the process…. Sometimes, when everyone is giving you their opinion on the perfect centre piece or napkin fold and your bridesmaid has just announced she is pregnant and needs a flexible frock it can all feel a bit too much like hard work. So, we suggest you take a step back and remember what’s important… you and your fiancé! So take time out from the wedding madness! We suggest a meal at your wedding venue remembering why you love each other and the venue you have chosen for your special day.
All that is left for us to say is congratulations and let’s party!!
Wedding Planner (Diploma in Professional Wedding Planning)